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You see what you want to see!

We have the ability to make anything look good, appear positive, shine bright, and we can even turn mud into gold. It’s not about any sort of magic, but rather about perspective and attitude. What you see through the vision you have been granted is up to you. Put yourself in the shoes of a blind person, perhaps like current USC football player Jake Olson (whom I wrote about in a previous post). But then again, there are those born blind who have never seen at all, and those that have acquired their loss of vision after seeing what the world offers us.

No matter which category you find yourself in, you still get to see what you want to see. Close your eyes and see for yourself. Do it! For a just a few minutes. Put the cell phone away. Think about something, anything. Picture something that society, your own family, your education or anything that has had an influence on you, has conditioned you to see as poor, evil, and/or negative in some simple way.

Stop reading my blog and try this little exercise out for yourself.

Okay…your back…let’s keep going.

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Now I want you think about something positive that was wrapped up in the evil, or the failure, that you were picturing. You may surprise yourself and may not need to look too deep past the surface.

In everything there is something positive, influential, peaceful and loving that is yet to be discovered.

Your attitude is what determines what you find. You already know that you can turn bad situations into positive outcomes. You have done it with every failure you have ever turned into a success. You have realized that your perspective and attitude needed a little shift. Perhaps a pause and a reset.

You decided to see what you wanted to see. You turned off the news channel. You turned off your phone. You set aside Facebook for even just one day. You moved past the loss of the game. You went from “BEING CONCERNED” to “BEING THANKFUL.”

No one changed the lens you were looking through except for you.

Great job. Keep doing what you do and you will in fact surprise yourself.

And next time you see something while you are driving or walking down the street that you have been conditioned to see as “bad,” see if you can in fact make it good. And then, stop the car, or stop walking for a second and offer some help. Or at the very least, make some eye contact and simply smile. Your effort may in fact change someone’s attitude and their entire day or even week for the better.

The best choice is often not easy

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Today’s post is not mine at all, but I feel compelled to share it with you, and more so to turn you on to someone’s work that I very much admire. I even gave him his own section in my RECOMMEND BOOKS area. His name is Seth Godin. If you simply type Seth into GOOGLE, you will likely go straight to his blog. His blog is incredible…at least that is my opinion. Sometimes short, sometimes long, but always intellectually stimulating. He posts something everyday, and I believe that is what makes his work so special. And if you think those are well written, you must check out one of his incredible books. If you do anything, don’t write Seth off as some sort of marketing guru…he is so much more than that. He just happens to be really good at marketing, business, etc.

I have known about Seth for a few years now. I had the privilege of meeting him earlier this year, and it was an incredible day when he actually commented on one of my own blog posts. Talk about someone motivating and inspiring me. For Seth to actually take the time to comment on something I had written meant everything to me and it’s one reason why I feel even more compelled to help as many people as possible on their own journey’s of personal growth.

For the past few weeks I have had the opportunity to influence nearly 100 college athletes, coaches and staff, and I have done so with nothing more than offering a few minutes of my time, my undivided attention, and a few words written on some paper. The feedback I received from all of those that I spoke with meant more than any material possession could ever mean. I was seeing change take place before my very eyes. That stuff that many people talk about in books, but that never gets realized. For me, it was happening day after day.

So check out the below post found on Seth’s site today…the best advice I can give you today is to consider signing up for his blog, it just might help you make a few better choices in your life.

All the best to you my friends!

Degrees of freedom

All you have to do is look around to realize just how many choices we still have. What to eat, who to speak to, what to do for a living, what to learn, what to say, who to contribute to, how we interact, what we stand for…

The safe and comfortable path is to pretend that we’re blocked at every turn.

But most of the turns, we don’t even see. We’ve trained ourselves to ignore them.

A habit is not the same as no choice. And a choice isn’t often easy. In fact, the best ones rarely are.

But we can still choose to make one.

Just a note

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I am a big believer in what is now becoming the lost art of writing someone a personal note. The advent of the Internet and text messaging, while amazing in their own ways of instant communication, have overshadowed the simplicity of pen on paper. But I get it, not everyone enjoys writing, and many more believe they don’t have the time to do so when texting can be done in seconds with fewer words that don’t even have to be spelled correctly to make sense.

For me, writing has always been an avenue for stress relief. It has freed me from my own debilitating obsessions of constantly organizing, exercising, or shall we say “just doing something.” Writing allows me to stop and think. It allows me to reflect. It truly allows me to be grateful for all that I have been given. I believe that it has the power to free the mind from both obligation and stagnation.

Over the past few weeks I have witnessed a group of young men and their coaches desperately seeking small victories, to uplift their morale after losing three straight games. They had started their season with three wins, and they were only expected to win one of those games. Coined a rebuilding year, many did not think they would win more than three or four games out of their 12-game season. I felt honored to have a chance to be a part of the rebuilding. To see it from within, not just on a television or on my phone on Saturdays.

I had always been a believer and doer when it comes to sending out small notes of appreciation to people throughout my life. I only wish I would have done it many more times. There have surely been many many people deserving of a thank you note from me, or even just a simple message to uplift another persons’s soul or mood.

And this time, I wanted to do something a little different since the opportunity surely presented itself.

Since I had access that most people don’t, I decided to pick 10-players who I thought would benefit from a small, authentic and genuine note taped upon his locker before the start of the game. Many of them I had not even met, others brief interactions in the offices or on the field during practice, and just a few that I had truly connected with. I wanted to do my best to try and inspire them just a little.

A different note for each one, not just a generic quote or statement. Five to 10-sentences with some sort of substance. It took me a little while to complete my project, but oh it was worth it. For the first time in 4-weeks, the team posted a victory: 37 to 3 against a Top-10 ranked team that had 6 wins and ZERO losses going into the night. And the opponent was ranked #1 out of 130 teams in terms of number of points scored per game.

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While I believe I have enough self-awareness to realize that my notes did not win the game for us, the action I saw on the field was worth it. Players came up to me at the start of the game, during and after, and even sent me text messages thanking me for the notes they received. A few of them even proclaiming that I had done something for them that no one else ever had before.

Some of them admitted that they finally gave the game “all they had in them” and finally focused on their “brothers” vice themselves.

And if you watched the game and compared the list of players I wrote to, to those making the big plays, you would have been amazed. Maybe what I did had no bearing whatsoever, but I felt good about it and so did those involved. It was all about connecting.

This week I think I will write 50 or 60 notes before we go up against the University of Arizona next weekend. Good thing I already started writing some of them this morning. I just have to make sure I tape them to the correct locker.

Why don’t you start with just ONE? Let someone know how much you care about them. Or how grateful you are for having them in your life. Or perhaps you can just say hello.

Let me know how it goes. I would really love to hear about the results that you get from just a few words on paper.

The Little Things – The Details

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It was another demoralizing loss, 38 to 7, for the Cal Bears of UC Berkeley the other night as they took on the University of Washington Huskies. The game was in Seattle, and the rain had come and gone all throughout the day. Another night game for the Bears, after a long day of sitting around in the hotel. I tried to remain aware as I walked through the hotel, sat in on team meetings, tended to a few players in the make-shift training room, and watched as they chose the foods that would ultimately give them energy for the game.

We had flown up the night before and arrived at the hotel around 600pm. That would mean we would be there for nearly 24-hours before getting on the bus and heading to the stadium. Lots and lots of time for little DETAILS to get sucked up into the void of stagnation.

How do you keep the DETAILS in the forefront of the brains’ of 70 young men who just want to go out and play a game? I don’t believe there is one easy answer.

Due to television contracts, the PAC-12 Conference had taken on the bulk of night games over the past few years, which often meant that players would not be back in their beds for sleep until the early morning hours of the next day leading to a compressed week of practice, schooling, recovery, and then another game. As you can see, there are many DETAILS involved. This makes you wonder if it even has anything to do with football and the student-athlete any longer. It is as if the game has turned solely into entertainment, advertising and ultimately the bottom-line of being a money generator for television networks.

The Bears had not claimed victory since September 16th when they pulled off a small, but surprising upset, over the University of Mississippi. That was 4-games ago. That win gave them a record of 3 wins, with ZERO losses. Not a bad start for a team with a new coaching staff. Deemed a rebuilding year with low expectations from anyone on the outside looking in.

Now with some key players injured and the season half-way over, the Bears find themselves at 3 and 3. 6-games remain in the regular season. The past few weeks have been quite sobering. The last two contests, not even close. The DETAILS, those little things that often lead to failure or success in life, have been overlooked. That sense of being able to fail, yet bounce back and overcome has not come to fruition.

There has not been a specific player who has taken the lead. That player that steps forward with a voice that ignites the rest of the men in the locker room. It is not that one has to be an extroverted leader, but if not, then the actions on the field must speak louder than words. A combination of both is quite important in this game. A void remains when it comes to the players taking what the coaches instill in them throughout the week, and then bringing that knowledge of the game to appropriate life once the whistle blows to start the contest.

Team Captains being assigned each week, rather than players taking charge and assuming the role themselves. Not necessarily the way battles are won. But that is just one small DETAIL.

We could talk nutrition. From sugary snacks to Chick-fil-A. We could consider uniforms, cold-weather gear, and those interactions between players and equipment staff. We could consider specific practice sessions not getting recorded on video because an intern is still learning how to read the practice script, or profane music being blasted during practice and players dancing vice being focused while going through game-like scenarios. DETAILS.

A player parking his car illegally before practice, not once but many times, or another mocking the school’s band during half-time of a game. The DETAILS.

Seeing another team not being that much better in terms of skill, yet being more disciplined and thus paying better attention to the DETAILS. Late hits (tackles) often equaling what is considered a “loss of control.” Players pulling themselves out of games due to confidence issues. Strong entitlement. Those little things.

Good men. Caring and loyal, but missing out on a few DETAILS.

These things do in fact matter. Whether to pick up trash in the locker room, or in the airplane. To stay up late playing video games and talking on the phone or to turn off the electronics to get some sleep and allow the body to heal. The DETAILS matter now, tomorrow, next week and beyond.

And it has hardly anything to do with football, it is really about the Game of LIFE.

 

Community

What a frustrating game it was the other night. 17 to “ZERO” at the end of the first quarter. Then within seven points at the beginning of the fourth quarter. And then, the implosion. Final score 45 to 24. The Cal Bears destroyed by the Oregon Ducks at Autzen Stadium in Eugene, Oregon. The scene was unbelievable. The Duck fans totally immersed in the moment known as a football game. Approximately 3-hours of total mayhem for those of us in the Bears uniforms: players, staff, and fans. And you don’t even have to like football, or sports for that matter, to appreciate the idea behind this blog post today.

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The Ducks fans completely “Present” for their team. Loud and annoying, but I could see the heartfelt compassion from the fans to the players.

A community that lives and dies over sports – football, track & field, and more. The home of the historic shoe and apparel company: NIKE. Home of success. A community in its simplest and purest form. People waiting all day in their yellow and green attire. The game not kicking off until 740 pm. My explanation of the scene does not do the atmosphere any justice. It was full of emotion. Super sensory stimulation. Visual, acoustic, and overall sensory overload. You could taste the camaraderie. The ground shaking. Arms waving. People dancing and eating all at the same time.

The Ducks were seeking to avenge a loss just one week earlier to Arizona State, and my Bears trying to do the same after a great battle with USC that was tied 13 to 13 at the end of three quarters. Both teams with new head coaches. Both teams with 3 wins and 1 loss.

It is always tough to win on the road. Even tougher at places like Autzen Stadium. Filled with a community of believers. From the the beginning these folks were determined to help their team win. They refused to back down. Almost like those at the Alamo. Nearly every fan stayed in his or her seat until the very end. I wish you could have been there with me. And as I said earlier, even if you dislike football, or sports in general. Even if you are an introvert and would rather eat mud then be in a crowd with people you don’t know.

This was an example of a community, and community is often something that many of us yearn for because we don’t have one in which we belong. Some of us don’t feel connected.

This is yet another example of how sports can build bridges vice break them down.

Go out and find a community to belong to. Whether it means starting a conversation with your neighbors that you have never met, joining a new church, signing up to play in a weekend sports league, or anything that allows you to join in fellowship with other human beings. It is powerful in more ways than you can imagine. And who knows, you may see your own community grow in incredible ways.

 

 

 

A reflection on being of service

I checked my military email account this morning before heading out the door to start my day with the University of California “Cal” Football team, and of course the inbox was full from last Friday. Most emails, as usual, were unrelated to me or my future. But the few that mattered each had their own unique importance when it comes to the big picture…the big picture of a life of service.

I received one email about setting up a phone interview for a sports medicine fellowship. Obviously someone is being of service to me by giving up their time to do an interview, with the goal of me giving up my time to help those with sports injuries in the future.

Then another email from a young man, a senior in high school, with aspirations of becoming a naval officer. The son of a career naval officer, who happened to be one of my faculty, and who is yearning to go to the University of Washington on an NROTC scholarship. He sent forth his personal statement and has asked for my review and recommendations.

The next email from a current sports medicine fellow asking me to join him on submitting a paper for publication. A nice gesture to say the least, where everyone involved will benefit.

I put my computer away, grabbed my bags and headed to the car.

Talk about serving others. I am currently staying with great friends who always give themselves and their time to help others. That is how our relationship started 10-years ago. You see, it was my friend Todd who has really shown me what it means to be a servant leader. But he would never label himself with the “L” word. Because for Todd it is all about giving to others without expecting anything in return.

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(Todd doing what he does best in serving the players and coaches on the Cal Football team. Making sure all the communications systems are up and running. We almost pulled it off against USC, but they continued the winning streak to 15 years).

And then while sitting in the back of the car on our way to the airport to drop off Todd’s wife for a flight to visit their grandchildren, I received a text message from the son of an old medical school classmate. A navy veteran himself who now plans to apply to medical school. Asking for my advice with interview techniques and if I could write up a letter of recommendation for him. Of course I will. It is all about helping others, isn’t it?

Then a phone call from Todd’s son came in over the blue tooth receiver. For some reason, the steering wheel on his truck was locked and he could not get it released no matter how hard he tried. So we took a little detour on the way to the football stadium to help him out. Serving once again. But we will have to go back and serve some more because we could not get the thing to work. And if Todd cannot fix it, there is definitely something wrong.

All of this in a matter of just a couple of hours. It felt good to be asked. To be of service to others.

And I even made breakfast for my girls this morning. They often wake up at 0500. Not sure where they get that from. Perhaps they are already thinking about serving. And they are taking care of Todd’s dog while we are gone during the day. So yes, they are serving as well.

Service is what you and I “DO.” It is “WHAT” we are. It is what we “BELIEVE” and it is what sets us “APART” from the lonely souls who only think of themselves, and who see serving others as “COMPETITION” rather than “COMPASSION.”

The more you give, the more you will surely receive.

WHEN WE GIVE EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN, IT IS REMARKABLE HOW MUCH MORE OTHERS WILL GIVE BACK TO US.

 

 

What is the one “freedom” you can actually control?

I would venture to say the question I posed above made you stop and think if even for a split second. What is this one particular “freedom” that you can always maintain even in the most dire of circumstances?

If you have not heard of Viktor Frankl, I would urge you to look him up. A colleague of mine reminded me of the man that I first read about many years ago when he decided to start an after-work book club gathering at a local pub recently (and yes, you can have an intelligent and relatively coherent talk about books over a beer, wine or your beverage of choice…)

And if you want to read a short, but quite impactful work, I would get a copy, or at least download a free PDF of his book Man’s Search for MeaningThe book, which was published after World War II in 1946, chronicles Dr. Frankl’s experiences as an Auschwitz concentration camp inmate during World War II, and reveals his psychotherapeutic method, which involved identifying a purpose in life to feel positively about, and then truly imagining the outcome.

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Perhaps that is more than you are looking for today. Maybe you need a few days, weeks or months to consider what your purpose in life should be. You may not be ready to define your WHY. I get it, and that’s not WHY I am writing today.

I simply want to share this idea about ATTITUDE and how that is the one freedom you can always control.

Think about such a concept through various lenses. You have cancer (curable or incurable). You just lost someone you loved for one reason or another. You failed an exam. You lost the football game. Your house was destroyed by a flood, a fire, or an earthquake; all of these natural disasters occurred in either the US, Mexico or the Carribean over the past few weeks, and there are people out there trying to maintain their ATTITUDES about life and whether or not there could be a God after all of this.

Take any of the above examples and tailor them to fit your own life. Adversity often shifts the ATTITUDE paradigm. It is easy to wallow in self-pity. To think that we have it worse than everyone else. Just a few seconds of reflection will surely prove things can indeed be worse. Place yourself in Viktor Frankl’s world and you might decided to change your ATTITUDE immediately.

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But your ATTITUDE is at your disposal, and you should choose wisely. I look at my two daughters and the ATTITUDES they often possess. They are not always smiling, especially not in my house where they have to make their beds each morning, followed by a short exercise routine, 10 to 15 minutes of reading, some other mundane tasks and where yes, they often have to do extra school work on the weekends to get ahead of schedule. Some people would accuse me of child abuse, but I would venture to say that I am just preparing them for a life of difficulties where what they do now will make even the harshest situations seem anything but dire.

Plus, I make the work fun (the girls have taught me how to do cartwheels while making a bed, or a handstand while brushing one’s teeth…things I would have never imagined). The work assignments don’t take long. I am definitely complying with child labor laws.

And they have the rest of the day to be KIDS! I feel that the little tasks I give them now have already paid dividends in the classroom, at soccer or gymnastics practice, and especially for their teachers, since my goal is to always provide the teacher with one less child to have to discipline.

My children always seem to maintain a good ATTITUDE. Maybe it has to do with an appropriate balance. I am not really sure. But somehow, they can bounce back very quickly. I don’t think the same can be said of most adults.

Like the little one above, who has worn hearing aids since she was only 5-weeks old, we should all strive to maintain that one freedom that can never be taken away from us by anyone else. We are truly in control of our response to anything and everything that comes our way. You may not believe it, but it is certainly true. Choose how to feel. Choose how to respond. Choose your ATTITUDE, and if anything, choose it WELL.

So your task today and in the days ahead…on a piece of scrap paper, in your journal, on a whiteboard or whatever you typically make notes on:

Write out three things you are grateful for…and try this for at least 7-days

  1. I am grateful for ______________
  2. I am grateful for ______________
  3. I am grateful for ______________

What this simple exercise can do for your ATTITUDE may simply surprise you!

Thanks for joining me today. All the best as you continue to find balance in your lives, with a new focus on your ATTITUDE and what it can or cannot do for you! You may have never seen your ATTITUDE as a FREEDOM in your life, but it is exactly that.

Purposeful Action

Saluting the flag

On September 1st, 2017, I was afforded the honor of being a member of the flag detail for a colleague’s retirement ceremony. After more than 24-years of active service in the US Navy he decided that it was time to hang up the uniform. For me it was a reminder that there has not been a draft in over 40-years, and that everyone who has served since that time has chosen to serve for one reason or another. And my role on this day reminded me that the flag itself is a precious symbol of what we believe and stand for.

But then I thought about something that has garnered quite a bit of attention over the past year — the act of sitting or kneeling during the national anthem. And my BLOG, as I promised myself (and the public affairs folks of the Navy), would refrain from discussing political topics. So I will keep this short, sweet, and ABSOLUTELY free from bias.

Colin Kaepernick of NFL fame decided that he would not stand during the national anthem during the 2016 season. On August 14th and 20th of that year, he was not in uniform and essentially went unnoticed, but then on August 26th, #7, in his 49ers Red and Gold could be seen sitting by the Gatorade table, all alone.

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Others have now followed suit. Either sitting or kneeling during the anthem.

Our country has been disturbed to say the least. There are those defending Kaepernick for his actions, proclaiming that he is refusing to stand because he wants our country to get better (we all want that). That his actions are a call to break down the barriers that separate us.

I agree with his beliefs in terms of us needing to do something, but I do not believe that not standing during the anthem gets us any closer to creating lasting change. Last I checked, kneeling does nothing more than put pressure on one’s patella. It hardly symbolizes unity.

To create change Colin should consider knocking on people’s doors. Talking to our citizens about the problems we have. The racism that persists. The racial profiling that occurs. The difference between his multi-million dollar paychecks for playing sports, and the measly minimum wage paychecks that the majority of our citizens are expected to persist on.

The flag and the national anthem have done nothing wrong. They did not cause these problems. We, the people who are here because of the flag are the ones who have created all of this pain and suffering. I abhor the prejudice and racism that persists (my own father-in-law holds prejudice against myself and my daughters because of my heritage), but I am not going to start kneeling, or sitting, because of him. I won’t stop saluting the flag because that would be ignorant.

While I am friends with a few men in the NFL, I don’t know Colin Kaepernick, but I wish I did because I would love to talk with him. I would tell him to start going door-to-door. To sit down at the dinner table and have a PURPOSEFUL CONVERSATION with the people of our nation. I would tell him that the flag did not hurt him, and that it has not hurt anyone. That he should not blame the flag or the national anthem for our countries problems.

Last I checked, the flag does not speak, but you and I, and so many others do.

SALUTE, STAND, ACKNOWLEDGE. But don’t disgrace something that has provided you freedom and millions of dollars. That is what I would tell him.

If you want CHANGE to happen, then take OWNERSHIP, and give it no other choice.

Loosen the Grip

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One of the most difficult things to consciously choose is to give up control. We want to be powerful. We desire to be in charge. We love the driver’s seat.

For many of us, our type “A” personalities shine through at no better time than when we are in charge…the boss…the big cheese. This could be for a single event or a daily venture. It is human nature to desire control. It just makes sense. And that is okay because it often leads to success, but not always.

Control is not synonymous with greatness. The art does not lay in the most aesthetic grip, but rather in the ability to balance the grip — not too tight or too loose. Just look all around you. Control can be aggravating. It can lead to abuse — all too often it does just that. Many an argument, divorce, and failure can be attributed to too much control.

What matters it not that we are in control, but that which we choose to control.

For example, controlling what goes in your mouth is essential to good health. Controlling who you spend the majority of your time with often dictates who you are and who you will become — this is obviously very important. The contrary would be controlling other people — you notice I said CONTROLLING, not LEADING or GUIDING — completely different.

Consider your daily schedule or how many keys you have on your key ring. How many people must you allocate your time to today? Who in your life depends on you being healthy and making good choices?

Is your grip too tight, or just right?

I am willing to bet your forearms are a little sore. Loosen your grip even just a little and you will see your life change in ways you never would have expected. Your PROCESS requires some give and take. It cannot exist and be fruitful without such balance, and you don’t have to look any deeper than your state of control. Simply look at your grip.

A Positive Deviant

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I recently completed my reading of Dr. Atul Gawande’s book Better. My only regret is that I did not read it sooner, as in the first time it became available. And this book is hardly just for those in the medical profession. It is perfect for anyone looking to become, shall we say “Better.” I know you will not be disappointed if you decide to pick up or download a copy to read for yourself.

What I want to share with you and focus on today is Dr. Gawande’s final chapter of the book, or more appropriately the “Afterword.” Dr. Gawande, who trained to become a prominent endocrine surgeon, is also a staff writer for the New Yorker, a keynote speaker, father, husband, and philanthropist. In this final section of the book he suggests ways that one can make things “better” for others without necessarily following the status quo.

While his anecdotes pertain to being a physician, you can easily replace such thinking with almost any occupation that deals with helping people. From being a teacher to a car salesman, or a stay at home mom or dad to a pastor. It works for all of us. Only 8 and 1/2 pages describing only 5 things that all of us can surely learn from.

If anything we can make our own lives more enriched, balanced, and most of all we can become grateful for both what we have been given and that which we have been FORTUNATE to work for. Yes, that is right. We have been FORTUNATE to have worked for things in our lives. It is one thing to be given things, but to struggle through the attainment of the things we consider to be a success puts us on another level.

Dr. Gawande’s five pieces of advice:

  1. Ask an unscripted question
  2. Don’t complain
  3. Count something
  4. Write something
  5. Change

The 10-minutes or less that it takes you to read these 8 and 1/2 pages is truly worth it. If you cannot get your hands on it, let me know and I will make a copy and send it your way. After all, the entire point of what I am trying to do with this BLOG is to help each and every one of us get “Better Everyday.”

We often get in our own way

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I won’t take the credit for the idea behind this blog post, as it comes from my friend John C. Maxwell, who is quite an accomplished pastor, writer, leadership and personal growth guru. In his book Fail Forward he writes about how many of us possess blind spots when it comes to knowing about ourselves. Sometimes these blind spots apply to our strengths, but more often than not we fail to see our weaknesses.

This list below is something you can print out and put up at work, home, or anywhere else that you frequent on a daily basis. It can help you work on your PROCESS, and it will definitely help you get BETTER each and every day. Take each one individually, or group them together as part of a bigger picture. For some of them you may recognize right away that it is either a strength or a weakness of yours, and thus you can do what needs to be done to improve.

Top 10 Reasons People Fail

  1. Poor people skills

  2. Negative attitude

  3. Bad fit

  4. Lack of focus

  5. Weak commitment

  6. Unwilling to change

  7. Short-cut mindset

  8. Relying on talent alone

  9. Response to poor information

  10. No goals

 

If you are stuck, and don’t know how to start such a PROCESS of personal growth, reach out to me via the contact section, and I will be sure to get back to you quickly to help you come up with a plan, no strings attached. I want nothing from you accept the opportunity to help you achieve your goals. For me, it is all about helping each and every one of you succeed at the game of life. Thanks for joining me today!

The Missed Call

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Do missed calls ever cause your mind to wonder? Not those ones (and there are often many) from numbers that you do not recognize — we all get those — mostly from people trying to sell us something or someone who inadvertently dialed the wrong number. But how about those missed calls from someone already in your contact list? That family member, friend, or coworker? Those are the missed calls that make me wonder.

I know that I have committed such an act myself and on more than one occasion, and usually it has been so as not to disrupt someone’s schedule — or at least I thought I would be disrupting his or her day. I always figured that if after 2 or 3 rings the person does not pick up, it would be best to just hang up. But that kind of thinking is directly in-line with a fast-food, I want it right now, society and mindset. People do need to use the bathroom every once in awhile. They also need to sleep and sometimes drive to get to their destinations. All things that are best completed when not answering a phone.

But then one day I thought about things a little differently. I started to ponder the simplicity of leaving a message, and then I thought a little deeper. I thought about how a simple message could potentially brighten someone’s day.

How just 20-seconds could change another person’s attitude and perspective. Of course, a voicemail could also lead to a negative reaction, but again that would be up to the person leaving the message and the person receiving it — individual perspective muddles everything up.

I challenge you to start leaving a message, even if you are worried about bothering the receiver. After all, you had a reason to call in the first place. So make the call count. Give the receiver a chance to smile. The decision is all yours.

The journey has begun

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