I may not be a singer, songwriter, or dancer. I am quite horrible at all of those things. I can’t hold pitch and have two left feet. I have two daughters and they would prefer a father who can do all of them. They have been trying to teach me and it is not really working out in my favor. But at least we are getting a few good laughs in.
And then JT came along. Well, he has been around for awhile now, but I just hadn’t paid all that much attention, and even though he is 15 months younger than I am, he has taught me so much more than the things we know him for. He recently published his first book and even though it is mostly pictures, the few words he uses are magical and powerful.
For instance, I took the following words quite literally (as I do with most things)…”I love the silence. I love being alone in my car, holding the wheel. I drive with the windows up, and I rarely play music. I crave stillness. It began as a need, and then it became a practice.”
I set out to do this for the past 60 days (I was tired of hearing about 30 day challenges). But driving around Waco, Texas, where there really isn’t much excitement, is challenging enough. I kept the radio off and I allowed myself to think and reflect, over and over again. It was quite liberating.
Or how about this…”I understand that I don’t have to conquer my fears. I just have to learn to live with them. Instead of looking for sunlight to erase that shadow, I know that it’s always going to be there. Everything you’re doing as an adult is to try to heal whatever you’ve built up from your childhood. It’s your shadow that follows you around, and the only time a shadow disappears is when you step into the darkness. And then you learn to step back out.”
This one has been particularly challenging for me. I have carried a few demons forward from my childhood. I have done many things to try and overcome my insecurities from the past, but a few continue to persist. But I understand the process and I know that I should continue to step in and out of the darkness to let my shadow do its thing.
I took copious notes while reading JT’s self-help guide. And I could keep writing about all the things I learned about myself, but that would not help you. You need to first think about the challenges you have had. The insecurities you possess. The childhood that might not have been perfect. The first few formative years as an adult that may have gone awry. And when you do so focus on one thing…focus on where you are right now. Decide if it is the right place, and if it’s not then make a decision to do something different. Don’t put up with excuses. Don’t put up with yourself, if “yourself” is not the person you want to be. I dare you to change one thing that just isn’t right in your life, and when you do please share it in the comments below. We are here to help one another. No judgment. No critique. A simple mechanism to help us all grow to be the people we want to be.