Advantageous Disadvantage

Today I was reflecting on my friend M.H. and her cancer story. It all began for her in 2016 — and it is fair to say that it will never actually truly end — because in one way or another cancer stays with you forever. What does change is whether or not the cancer has an active or dormant role in your life.

As I have mentioned before — CANCER is often synonymous with CANCEL (as in to cancel one’s life) — but not always. And when its canceling effect is blocked, the diagnosis is a real “Advantageous Disadvantage.” (Thanks Pastor Knox!)

You may not have put those two words together before, but I know you have either witnessed such an idea within yourself or have seen it in others. It is just as it is written, or more simply: to have an advantage at some endeavor because of a disadvantage that is present.

This idea persists!

Beethoven and Mozart had issues with their hearing. Stevie Wonder is blind and plays the piano as good as anyone. Many prominent athletes grew up poor or in broken homes. President Franklin Roosevelt got around in a wheelchair. The list goes on. Cancer is on that list. It can propel its victim to new heights. And just the other day, my friend M.H. was contemplating her disease, and it’s possible return. Reminding herself of the toll it has had on her body and her mind.


A friend of hers who has dealt with cancer herself shared a message (unedited below) with her, and I found it so beautifully written that I wanted to share it with you. You don’t have to have cancer to put it to work in your own life. You don’t even have to have a so called “disadvantage.” If you are alive and breathing, then chances are you can learn from it, and use it to invigorate and propel yourself towards the successes that you hope to achieve. Instead of hope, make it a reality.

“Cancer just consumes you to the core — the appointments, tests, scans, treatments, surgeries…it’s life altering. But, I can honestly tell you it does get better. You will never be the same…I will never, ever be able to 100% trust my body again, but I do have an amazing healthcare team that watches me closely. It’s just a new normal, that’s all. Try and think of it this way — you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it. And you are. One thing I will tell you (and it’s a hard lesson to learn — I’m still learning at 7.5 years out), you have to give yourself grace. By that, I mean you have to let yourself be tired, and scared, and mad, and frustrated because you don’t look or feel the same anymore. It’s okay. It’s okay to just get downright angry. But as time passes (and it will), and as you get stronger (and you will), you will look back at this year with a whole new view. I promise.”

I am not sure if this touched your heart like it did mine, but chances are you know someone (and it could be you) that could use some words of encouragement. If you think today’s BLOG, or any of the posts that you have read could make a small difference in the life of someone you know, then please direct them here. Encourage them to sign up to receive the BLOG in their email. All I am trying to do is help people chase a little FAITH. We all need some. Blessings to you!

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